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Nondu Lehutso
The NDL Show
Episode 32: Toxic Relationships: This is Why You Stayed

On this episode we dissect why we stay in toxic relationships for longer than we should. We are first joined by Thando Mofolo, Ayanda Matsafu and Anele Ntshangase who together impart experiences and various symptoms of toxicity that made them realise the toxic situations they were in. Our conversation is targeted at helping you also identify possible indicators of toxicity because we often stay in these spaces for way too long, and it takes so much for us to unlearn our own toxic responses. You can follow them on Insta @thando_loving_m, @yandie_bloodred and @anele_nele.

We then move onto our last segment with Counselling Psychologist Khanyisile Bujela who gives us the psychological side as to why we tend to stay in toxic relationships. You can find her on Insta @khanyisilebujela. Don’t hesitate to reach out to her.

For our Valentines Edition next week, we would like to invite you to send voicenotes to us, dedicating a sweet message to your loved ones. You can email your messages to us on, also include your persons’ social media handles so that we can alert them of your message that will play on the show!

Musical Appearances by:

Hunter Rose with her track “GROWN” from her album Love and Trust that was released last year. Be sure to stream it on the platform of your choice. Follow her on Instagram @hunterroseeee


S.B.X with the track “What We Do” from her debut EP These Songs Are About You. You can stream it on Soundcloud and YouTube, catch the link in her bio. She is @sibahlexulu on Insta and Twitter.

Let us know how you feel about the show. Thank you for listening.

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